Ask Lucy: Practical Advice for the Modern Man

[PessOptimist]

OMG! You are talking about secured areas. Of course you're not supposed to let anyone in. Everyone is supposed to sign in with their own badge. :worried:

Lets keep it simple, people.

Yes, secured areas of course but the LWOP policy applies to entering the facility period, not just the secured areas. If you hold the door you become responsible for making sure the person is authorized and if so badges in. I only meant to comment that breaking the habit of being courteous about the door was hard to break and some times no longer applicable. Nothing is simple anymore.

PO

 

[jpcavin]

Yes, secured areas of course but the LWOP policy applies to entering the facility period, not just the secured areas. If you hold the door you become responsible for making sure the person is authorized and if so badges in. I only meant to comment that breaking the habit of being courteous about the door was hard to break and some times no longer applicable. Nothing is simple anymore.

PO

My question had nothing to do with instances where rules and regulations take precedence. It was a simple question about common every day courtesy. You made it more complicated than it needed to be.

 

[JTH]

Read this. Maybe your questions will be answered. #8 puts the cologne question to rest.

Who Said Chivalry Is Dead? 20 Things A Gentleman Does Differently

Well thanks for hijacking my morning show, Princess! :laugh::laugh::laugh:

Oh my, that's not a gentlemen, that's a va-jay-jay with a penis.

 

[jpcavin]

Oh my, that's not a gentlemen, that's a va-jay-jay with a penis.

You better get that Peter Pan syndrome checked out.

 

[JTH]

You better get that Peter Pan syndrome checked out.

Here's the thing, there has been a growing movement over the years to strip men of their masculinity, so much so that we now have something as silly as the Lumbersexual.

Femisnism vs. Gentlemenism sends mixed messages, we are not equal nor were we ever intended to be equal, I am a banana, you are a peach, we complement each other

 

[jpcavin]

Here's the thing, there has been a growing movement over the years to strip men of their masculinity, so much so that we now have something as silly as the Lumbersexual.

Femisnism vs. Gentlemenism sends mixed messages, we are not equal nor were we ever intended to be equal, I am a banana, you are a peach, we complement each other

So being a gentleman strips man of his masculinity? Say what? I'm sorry but I disagree.

A gentleman is a feminist. Despite the fact that it's 2014, plenty of people (both male and female) are under the misconception that feminism is a dirty word. They confuse the word "feminism" with "misandry". A real gentleman is aware feminism is the belief that both men and women deserve to be treated equally, and they will have absolutely no problem with that.

 

[DreamboatAnnie]

Read this. Maybe your questions will be answered. #8 puts the cologne question to rest.

Who Said Chivalry Is Dead? 20 Things A Gentleman Does Differently

Definitely.i These are the qualities of a true gentleman. Gentlemen also leave the elevator last even when they are up in front. Encountered that working at the U.S. Attorney's Office In San Antonio some years back. All men in that building did that...bankers, mail guys, attorneys, FBI,etc ... Very nice!

 

[DreamboatAnnie]

Men and Women are equal in dignity. But they are different. Thank God!!!

 

[alevin]

Have to say I hold the door for others, and truly appreciate when others do it for me too, whether they be men or women either one. It's common courtesy, indeed. little things make a difference. so easy to do, too. I definitely notice when some guy goes in right before me and lets it swing shut in my face just as I get there, and I think 'jerk' to myself. involuntary thought response.

 

[jpcavin]

Men and Women are equal in dignity. But they are different. Thank God!!!

Nobody is arguing that men and women are different. In fact, the purpose of this thread is to point out a lot of those differences and to bridge the gap that leads to so many misunderstandings.

And as different as they may be, they also share the same rights as human beings.

 

[konakathy]

Sooooo....after much debate and digression, I believe most of us would agree that whether you are a gentleman or lady; it is always considerate and polite to open a door for anyone.

What's the next topic? :laugh:

 

[jpcavin]

Sooooo....after much debate and digression, I believe most of us would agree that whether you are a gentleman or lady; it is always considerate and polite to open a door for anyone.

What's the next topic? :laugh:

Sorry, Sis. Sadly enough, I don't think you can expect common courtesy from Modern Man unless he's a va-jay-jay

 

[konakathy]

Sorry, Sis. Sadly enough, I don't think you can expect common courtesy from Modern Man unless he's a va-jay-jay

:laugh: :laugh:

 

[JTH]

Here's the thing, there has been a growing movement over the years to strip men of their masculinity, so much so that we now have something as silly as the Lumbersexual.

Femisnism vs. Gentlemenism sends mixed messages, we are not equal nor were we ever intended to be equal, I am a banana, you are a peach, we complement each other

So being a gentleman strips man of his masculinity? Say what? I'm sorry but I disagree.

A gentleman is a feminist. Despite the fact that it's 2014, plenty of people (both male and female) are under the misconception that feminism is a dirty word. They confuse the word "feminism" with "misandry". A real gentleman is aware feminism is the belief that both men and women deserve to be treated equally, and they will have absolutely no problem with that.

Hi JP, I may need to bow out of this, because what you're telling me, is not what I was trying to say to you.

Let me preface this with "I am a gentlemen" I was brought up by a single mom who worked twice as hard and was twice as smart as any man she ever met, but got paid half as much. Feminism is about women's rights, there isn't movement such as this (that I know of) that represents the specific interest of men.

Now I never said being a gentleman strips man of his masculinity what I said was there has been a growing movement over the years to strip men of their masculinity. By that, I did not intend to imply that feminism is the sole cause for this. I'm not sure what the main cause is, perhaps its the "political correctness" movement. The stripped-masculinity movement was already happening when I was born, perhaps someone older than me knows when it started to happen.

Now some folks who know me might argue that I'm more of a feminist than the average women, I have to be, I have to ensure that all our airmen are given the same opportunities to excel at their jobs (regardless if it's a male-dominated career field).

 

[konakathy]

:laugh: Has toilet seat etiquette been broached on this forum yet? :laugh:

Just jk.

 

[JTH]

I was talking with an old co-worker I met up with last week. He gave a limp handshake (pissed me off) I should'a punched him in the face for disrespecting me like that.

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[jpcavin]

Hi JP, I may need to bow out of this, because what you're telling me, is not what I was trying to say to you.

Let me preface this with "I am a gentlemen" I was brought up by a single mom who worked twice as hard and was twice as smart as any man she ever met, but got paid half as much. Feminism is about women rights, there isn't movement such as this (that I know of) that represents the specific interest of men.

Now I never said being a gentleman strips man of his masculinity what I said was there has been a growing movement over the years to strip men of their masculinity. By that, I did not intend to imply that feminism is the sole cause for this. I'm not sure what the main cause is, perhaps its the "political correctness" movement. The stripped-masculinity movement was already happening when I was born, perhaps someone older than me knows when it started to happen.

Now some folks who know me might argue that I'm more of a feminist than the average women, I have to be, I have to ensure that all our airmen are given the same opportunities to excel at their jobs (regardless if it's a male-dominated career field).

I'm not sure how or why this topic got so out of the ballpark. I was only pointing out gentlemen traits that the average woman admires and appreciates.
I believe a lot of men and women on this thread admire and respect you, myself included. It was a bit offensive and disheartening for you to refer to a gentleman as a va-jay-jay.

 

[JTH]

I'm not sure how or why this topic got so out of the ballpark. I was only pointing out gentlemen traits that the average woman admires and appreciates.
I believe a lot of men and women on this thread admire and respect you, myself included. It was a bit offensive and disheartening for you to refer to a gentleman as a va-jay-jay.

Sorry but I couldn't disagree more I read the article too, and noticed subtle hints of man-bashing. That was not an article about a being a gentlemen, that was an article about how to be a submissive man. We will just have to agree to disagree, and if you are offended, then you should forgive me, not because you have to, but because you love me and accept me for my flaws.

In-turn, I will agree to forgive you for your illogical womanly thought patterns and agree to take out the trash, mow the lawn, and wash your car.

 

[jpcavin]

Sorry but I couldn't disagree more I read the article too, and noticed subtle hints of man-bashing. That was not an article about a being a gentlemen, that was an article about how to be a submissive man. We will just have to agree to disagree, and if you are offended, then you should forgive me, not because you have to, but because you love me and accept me for my flaws.

In-turn, I will agree to forgive you for your illogical womanly thought patterns and agree to take out the trash, mow the lawn, and wash your car.

Women don't want a submissive man. I'm sorry but I didn't get that from the article. Men and women have different needs and all too many men overlook the importance as well as the reward of being a gentleman. Most men that treat their woman like a princess will surely be made to feel like a king.

Now there are some women that can't appreciate a good man just like there surely are men that can't appreciate a good woman. I'm not referring to those!

Thanks but I'll pass on the subservient offer. I can take out the trash, mow the lawn, and wash my own car. I don't need a man for that. But I can appreciate a man that does those things simply because he loves me and understands the importance of contributing to the family and not because I'm a woman who needs to be forgiven for her illogical thought patterns.

 

[ravensfan]

What are you driving, a jalopy? Your door lock should unlock automatically when you open/unlock her door. :laugh:

JP, you miss the point. So I'll explain it to you. If the lady unlocks the door for the gentleman, then she's probably a keeper. If not, she's thinks only of herself and is not worthy of a second date. Driving a jalopy has nothing to do with it!