burrocrat
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oh no, i had to have 'the talk' with my teenage son this evening. this is not good. we have had 'the talk' before and he is no stranger to how things work, we are pretty open about how real life happens, his half sister in another state is 16yo and expecting this summer so he will be an uncle soon, and his mom is not exactly the best 'leadership by example' in this scenario.
anyways, i knew something was up because i can tell when he is not revealing the whole truth and something has changed the last few weeks. i usually just let him trap himself in his own contradictions and let him accidentally tell me the whole story, but i thought this was maybe something i should dig for and try to find out. so i waited for the right time and just asked him 'so what is your girlfriend's name?' he just blurted out 'josie' and then instantly regretted it, but i had what i needed to know.
some backstory... he came home with some marker slashes on the back of his neck last week, boys don't do that, and these were purple, those washable color marker school supply things. how does a boy get those stripes on his neck, not even crooked like in a hurry, a girl was chasing him, she marked him like a game of i gotcha tag. so i knew for sure a few days ago. so anyways i had him point out 'josie' to me, and had to bite my tongue, don't say 'and the pussycats' not this time don't say it dad.
about a month ago when i was waiting to pick him up from school i saw these two girls chatting out front, both wearing black yoga pants and their struttin boots. the tall bigger goth gal was dolled up and my first thought was 'oh honey, a 14 year old girl should not know how to put on eye shadow like that yet'. and the little blonde strumpet next to her was even bigger trouble, obviously a nice girl but playin off her 'bad girl' friend to take the heat while she flirts and never gets in trouble. i know about these things. it's like good cop bad cop game.
so this weekend he wants to go to the park with his friend 'xavier' and he explains it is just xavier and his sister and her best friend and some other kids from school. i drop him off at the park and the group is there and he has instructions to communicate by phone and be ready to go at 5:00 and no funny stuff. when i pick him up he and xavier and these two girls are walking across the park obviously very familiar with each other and relaxed. 'oh, so who are those kids son?' that's xavier and his sister and 'josie' he says. oh ****, the little blonde tart is josie! this is bad! and the knows-too-much-already goth gal is his friends sister! this is really bad.
so we didn't have 'the talk' when we got home, we had 'THE TALK'.
anyways, i knew something was up because i can tell when he is not revealing the whole truth and something has changed the last few weeks. i usually just let him trap himself in his own contradictions and let him accidentally tell me the whole story, but i thought this was maybe something i should dig for and try to find out. so i waited for the right time and just asked him 'so what is your girlfriend's name?' he just blurted out 'josie' and then instantly regretted it, but i had what i needed to know.
some backstory... he came home with some marker slashes on the back of his neck last week, boys don't do that, and these were purple, those washable color marker school supply things. how does a boy get those stripes on his neck, not even crooked like in a hurry, a girl was chasing him, she marked him like a game of i gotcha tag. so i knew for sure a few days ago. so anyways i had him point out 'josie' to me, and had to bite my tongue, don't say 'and the pussycats' not this time don't say it dad.
about a month ago when i was waiting to pick him up from school i saw these two girls chatting out front, both wearing black yoga pants and their struttin boots. the tall bigger goth gal was dolled up and my first thought was 'oh honey, a 14 year old girl should not know how to put on eye shadow like that yet'. and the little blonde strumpet next to her was even bigger trouble, obviously a nice girl but playin off her 'bad girl' friend to take the heat while she flirts and never gets in trouble. i know about these things. it's like good cop bad cop game.
so this weekend he wants to go to the park with his friend 'xavier' and he explains it is just xavier and his sister and her best friend and some other kids from school. i drop him off at the park and the group is there and he has instructions to communicate by phone and be ready to go at 5:00 and no funny stuff. when i pick him up he and xavier and these two girls are walking across the park obviously very familiar with each other and relaxed. 'oh, so who are those kids son?' that's xavier and his sister and 'josie' he says. oh ****, the little blonde tart is josie! this is bad! and the knows-too-much-already goth gal is his friends sister! this is really bad.
so we didn't have 'the talk' when we got home, we had 'THE TALK'.
