Ask Lucy: Practical Advice for the Modern Man

[jkenjohnson]

Well love as I have said before, your cup runneth over... So what does that mean?

I thought this was for practical advice not cybersex.

 

[jpcavin]

hey lucy,

what is the correct answer when a gal asks a guy 'which dress do i look better in? this one, or this one?'

If you like how she looks in both dresses, then say so and point out what does look good. If you like one dress better than the other, point out her best features and how the dress you like brings out those features the best. If you don't like either dress, bash the dress and tell her how the article of clothing in question is poorly fitted, or made of cheap fabric, or just plain ugly and does not do her figure justice.

 

[burrocrat]

If you like how she looks in both dresses, then say so and point out what does look good. If you like one dress better than the other, point out her best features and how the dress you like brings out those features the best. If you don't like either dress, bash the dress and tell her how the article of clothing in question is poorly fitted, or made of cheap fabric, or just plain ugly and does not do her figure justice.

in my experience, there is no correct answer to that question.

if the guy responds 'you are hot in that black dress', then the gal says 'i didn't ask you if i was hot, i axed you which dress looked better'. then the guy hems and haws and usually says something stupid like 'you look great in both dresses'. then the gal says 'just answer the question! are you avoiding me? answer the question! which dress?'.

that usually happens about one minute before a door gets slammed and nobody gets some. at that point the guy looks down and shuffles his feet, and gals think he is thinking of the correct answer, but he is really thinking 'well, the sleeping bag is with the camping gear in the garage, there's only 2 beers left in the fridge, what time does the store close, i'm glad we got that new couch, and what is wrong with this princess?'.

 

[jpcavin]

in my experience, there is no correct answer to that question.

if the guy responds 'you are hot in that black dress', then the gal says 'i didn't ask you if i was hot, i axed you which dress looked better'. then the guy hems and haws and usually says something stupid like 'you look great in both dresses'. then the gal say 'just answer the question! are you avoiding me? answer the question! which dress?'.

that usually happens about one minute before a door gets slammed and nobody gets some. at that poimt the guy looks down and shuffles his feet. gals think he is thinking of the correct answer, but he is really thinking 'well, the sleeeping bag is with the camping gear in the garage, only 2 beers left in the fridge, what time does the store close, i'm glad we got that new couch, and what is wrong with this princess?'.

I stand by my reply. Women expect honesty and tact. It's all about the delivery.

 

[burrocrat]

generally speaking, guys can only deliver one of those things at a time.

hey lucy, what do women prefer, honesty or tact?

 

[jpcavin]

generally speaking, guys can only deliver one of those things at a time.

hey lucy, what do women prefer, honesty or tact?

No one answer fits every occasion. Depends on the question and the woman.

 

[burrocrat]

it depends?

what kind of answer is that?

that is not an answer at all.

 

[burrocrat]

booooo! just answer the question. which dress looks better on me, this answer or this one?

and please, just deliver it with both honesty and tact.

 

[jpcavin]

booooo! just answer the question. which dress looks better on me, this answer or this one?

and please, just deliver it with both honesty and tact.

"The burka looks best on you. Anything less would be too revealing and I want you all to myself."

 

[jpcavin]

cray, cray :nuts:

 

[alevin]

generally speaking, guys can only deliver one of those things at a time.

hey lucy, what do women prefer, honesty or tact?

Honesty-directness comes first always-but how well it is received depends on the delivery method. Even when angry-choice of words makes a big big difference in the response and effectiveness of the communication in creating positive outcomes to the conversation. Something I still have to work on regularly. Works both ways-both genders, in my experience.

 

[jpcavin]

how well it is received depends on the delivery method..

Exactly!

 

[MrBowl]

Lots of good advice so far.

Since it's summer what do women prefer to see men wear at the pool or beach...long trunks, regular trunks, banana hammock, that green thing that Borat wore, or something else?

 

[jpcavin]

Lots of good advice so far.

Since it's summer what do women prefer to see men wear at the pool or beach...long trunks, regular trunks, banana hammock, that green thing that Borat wore, or something else?

Speedos are definitely out. In Europe where most Speedos are worn, 98% of women hate their partners wearing Speedos. ( 98% of women hate partners wearing Speedos on the beach | Mail Online ). They're not very popular among women in the USA either.

While most guys don't have the athleticism of Sean Connery (Thunderball) or the sculpted body of Daniel Craig (Casino Royale), you could still do better than a saggy pair of Umbro shorts.

When choosing swimwear, you should always bear in mind what activities you will be engaging in throughout the day. If you are jogging or playing any sports like beach volleyball or surfing, you should opt for something light with a greater range of motion.

If you are slim, the classic lace-up board shorts is a good choice. The longer length and slim cut will flatter a smaller frame.


If you are athletic, a classic shorter swim truck is a good choice. It shows off a little muscle, and they're also helpful if you are not tall.


If you are less athletic, don't buy trunks that are long baggy just because you might think they suit you better. A little shorter style in solid colors with a little tailoring and stretch are more forgiving.


If you are a bit more daring and want to try out the Craig look, those risqué La Perla stretch trunks are still on sale at International Jock.


Ladies, what are your preferences?

 

[alevin]

Non-risque trunk styles for me. skinny dipping in private locations is an exception.

 

[DreamboatAnnie]

That depends on your mood. Is it hello baby or I've got a headache?

Hello Baby!!!

 

[JTH]

Thanks Lady(s) this has been an enjoyable thread for the forum.

I have been fortanate, to have 20+ years of intensive and seasoned spousal-unit training, it's a programing language I am well-versed in. I am fluent and certified in the traditional feminine languages of overly-emotional, doesn't-need-to-make sense-but-I-accept-it, WTF-were-u-thinking, and have a minor in "yes I am wrong" and "I promise I will fix it"

In the end, I am happy with the results on my investments, you get what you put in, and sister I'm putting it in every chance I get...

 

[jpcavin]

Your education and skill set are in high demand all over the world. You are welcome and in fact highly encouraged to share your life experiences in the hopes of helping out other less fortunate souls in your species.

 

[JTH]

Your education and skill set are in high demand all over the world. You are welcome and in fact highly encouraged to share your life experiences in the hopes of helping out other less fortunate souls in your species.

Thank you MFL (My Fair Lady)

From my perspective...

1) Men should not wear shorts period! Especially if their their stomach exceeds the girth of their waist (too heavy up top is a flop)

2) Shorts should not be worn if the legs have not received at least 1 hour of sunlight a week (white is not right)

3) Shorts should be no shorter than 2" above the knees, unless you are an Active Duty Marine (if you can't wear underwear, don't wear)

4) Hair on the legs should not exceed .75" in length and should be uniform in nature (no strays allowed, you'll poke your eye out)

5) Shorts should be black, blue, brown, or tan and the belt must match (no match, no snatch)

 

[PessOptimist]

Y fronts? I have seen ads for them. Containment is an issue.

Feet. Hoo boy. Messaging and gently working up the calf...being asked to get the pumps and put them on so's feet...different strokes for different folks. And so on and so forth and scooby-dooby-ooh-sha-sha.

If you don't know what I'm talkig about look up everyday people by Sly Stone.