Tough love

[Viva_La_Migra]

I don't know that I could have done what this father did, mainly because I paid for my kids' computers in the first place.

That is a nice looking .45 though!

 

[Show-me]

I love it and had to watch it twice. LIKE, LIKE, LIKE.

 

[RealMoneyIssues]

He is such a communist. He shouldn't have reacted that way as his Daughter was right! I can't believe there are still parents out there that don't provide for their child's every need.

Dang, Ok, I am going to go cool down, read It Takes a Village and listen to NPR... sheesh

 

[JTH]

+1 I'm going to show the video to my kids...

 

[Handballer]

Here is the link to video: Facebook Parenting: For the troubled teen. - YouTube

I saw it here yesterday.

 

[SkyPilot]

Don't you mean a Fascist? : )

He is such a communist. He shouldn't have reacted that way as his Daughter was right! I can't believe there are still parents out there that don't provide for their child's every need.

Dang, Ok, I am going to go cool down, read It Takes a Village and listen to NPR... sheesh

 

[RealMoneyIssues]

Don't you mean a Fascist? : )

Probably, or just a NRA member...

 

[nnuut]

I do believe in tough love, BUT children learn by example and this guy is teaching her to be an A$$ just like him.

 

[malyla]

I do believe in tough love, BUT children learn by example and this guy is teaching her to be an A$$ just like him.

I agree nnuut.

 

[nasa1974]

Maybe if he said I love you once in awhile it would make a difference. He is one of those "do it because I told you too" guys. And yeah it makes a difference if you allow them earn a little money for doing chores. I would say his daughters personality is just like his.

 

[SteelSaving]

I understand why the girl behaves the way she does, she didn't learn it from Sesame Street 10+ years ago.
Hope the dad has other kids too, for his sake, for the day he becomes invalid and needs them around to care for him.

 

[Birchtree]

When my brat was in high school I called her Ms. Mendacious because she was the best liar I ever knew. I finally got my revenge by encouraging her with an Acura CL to join Army ROTC when in college. It was a turning point and she ended up an excellent officer - did her 15 months in Iraq and met her current husband in Hawii and deployed together. She was recruited for her current job with BP because she was an Army officer with that leadership experience. I can't wait until she becomes a mother - then the real fun will start. I plan to name my boat after her, "Ms. Mendacious". Whenever I asked her to sweep the driveway she'd always ask - why me. My standard response was that it built character. And every time I heard I hate you - I always said I love to be hated. Now all I hear is I love you.

 

[tsptalk]

I do believe in tough love, BUT children learn by example and this guy is teaching her to be an A$$ just like him.

I liked the vedeo but he does seem to be a bit of an ass, and she seems to have followed in his footsteps. He deserves her, she deserved what she got, and poor mom has to live with both of them.

I think I like Birchtree's approach in post above.

 

[nnuut]

I liked the vedeo but he does seem to be a bit of an ass, and she seems to have followed in his footsteps. He deserves her, she deserved what she got, and poor mom has to live with both of them.

I think I like Birchtree's approach in post above.

I agree with you Tom, you can catch more Bees with honey than vinegar. With the right example and a different approach he could have encouraged her to do what she's supposed to, it's too late now.

 

[nasa1974]

I guess he has become somewhat of an internet and YouTube sensation. He has turned down interviews for various network news programs. I read the article this morning and dang if I can't find it now.

 

[MrJohnRoss]

Parenting is the toughest job on earth. You have to lead by example, not just by your words. That's tough to do, because we all screw up from time to time.

What this father has done is show his child that if you have a problem, just get your gun out and take care of it. Then act cool.

I predict his daughter will be in major trouble with the law before too long. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

 

[MrJohnRoss]

I guess he has become somewhat of an internet and YouTube sensation. He has turned down interviews for various network news programs. I read the article this morning and dang if I can't find it now.

Oh the press would ROAST his ass, and he knows it.

 

[Viva_La_Migra]

Parenting is the toughest job on earth. You have to lead by example, not just by your words. That's tough to do, because we all screw up from time to time.

What this father has done is show his child that if you have a problem, just get your gun out and take care of it. Then act cool.

I predict his daughter will be in major trouble with the law before too long. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

That's a pretty big leap. Where in the story does it say the father did prison time? Was he in violation of some local no shooting law? I've seen lots of reporting on this, but not one story about the father being investigated for any crime.

I thought the message was "Don't bite the hand that feeds you."

 

[MrJohnRoss]

That's a pretty big leap. Where in the story does it say the father did prison time? Was he in violation of some local no shooting law? I've seen lots of reporting on this, but not one story about the father being investigated for any crime.

I thought the message was "Don't bite the hand that feeds you."

Just a prediction, Viva. If the daughter thinks: "daddy likes to use a gun to solve his problems, I guess I will too", then we know where that would likely lead to a little mush brained youngster. Let's watch the story play out. Give it a few, then we'll see if she does indeed get in trouble with the law in some fashion or another. I wouldn't be surprised a bit.

 

[SkyPilot]

NNUT, I am in total agreement with you. I am guessing that the daughter did not post her diatribe on the internet the way she did without some developmental motivation. My experience tells me that the daughter is manifesting some raging behaviours that are being acted out in response to many of the things her dad has already demonstrated, but fueled by teen hormones, and exacerbated by the natural need of developing adolescents to establish their own identity. When I see a child acting out, I always look to the parents to see how things got to the place they are. The acting out of the dad seems to be the springboard that preciptated (and validates) his daughter's behaviour. That is not to say that this child needs intervention, but so does the father. I hate to think where this escalation could end. I would prescribe that this family view and discuss the current DVD release of the movie "Courageous".

The father that would post this video in response to his daughter demonstrates the lack of ability or desire to communicate directly in a healthy and helpful manner.

The damage he did to his daughter's emotional and spiritual development may be severe and indelible.

The emotional maturity of the father is also called into question, as he is willing to pickup and threaten his daughter with gunplay, and then offer her an irresistable challenge to push back.

Does anyone really believe the daughter will reflect and think to herself, "Gee... my dad really has a point here. I should stop and appreciate the great sacrifices my parents have made on my behalf. I should really be more careful about how I express myself, and endeavor to demonstrate my gratefulness in the future..."

Yeah, right....

I do believe in tough love, BUT children learn by example and this guy is teaching her to be an A$$ just like him.